Are you Empowering or Enabling the people in your life?

A big question each and every one of us needs to ask ourselves these days is: Am i really helping this person or am i enabling a negative pattern?

 

What does this exactly mean though? Empowering someone means you are there for support, you are there to listen but you don’t necessarily jump in to save or rescue the person all the time, empowering means sometimes standing back and trusting an individual to find their own way in managing their life.

 

This is where enabling comes in, I hear this day after day after day, how certain people just do not have their boundaries in place to say NO, I know its is so so hard to say no to friends, family members or even ex-spouse’s when a situation arises where they need rescuing, help or manipulation is in play. You need to know you are NOT helping a person if you constantly have to tell them what to do, you constantly have to give money that never gets paid back, or you do not consider your own time and space and energy in helping them. A good example is grandmothers looking after their grandchildren. In all those situations the person who is asking you for the favor is not taking responsibility for their actions, lives or situation, and by always helping, saying YES or rescuing they become dependant on your help which enables this bad pattern of not taking responsibility.

 

Rather Empower, start saying NO, stop giving advice and listen more, stop giving money and stand back, stop always helping and listen to your own needs, you won’t only start helping yourself but you will empower that person to take control, in the long term Empowering someone and standing back helps them much more than enabling and always jumping in, in the short term.

 

These boundaries that need to be set are not easy and you may not always feel good about it in the moment, people will be angry with you and sometimes you will be tested over and over again, but the more you realize that you have the power to help someone by just standing back, you may find it easier to do the more you practise. 🙂

 

For coaching or past, present or future advice please see my website juliatheunissen.co.za to make your bookings.

 

For online spiritual courses and web series check out our new website mtlovecoaching.co.za

 

GET UP, DRESS UP AND SHOW UP!!

Julia Theunissen.

 

The launch of MT Love Coaching Site

We are very excited to announce that our online content website MT Love coaching underwent a bit of a face lift the last few weeks. SO what’s new?

We have introduced a new manageable monthly subscription for all our online courses and online tv show content. This means for a small monthly contribution you can watch Open Mind as well as the new Awakening Season 2 which will launch 1 August, as well as take part in our two spiritual courses Numerology for beginners and The Beginners Tarot workshop all under one subscription. This monthly contribution will also give you lifetime access to all our new videos and courses that we are currently producing.

The site www.mtlovecoaching.co.za is live but still in beta mode so please if you would like to join our like minded community go subscribe but please also let us know of any bugs or problems you may pick up. info@mariettatheunissen.com

We are very passionate people and we are aiming at building a massive content website, but in order to do that we need your help, if there is any content or courses you would like us to make or you have ideas on what you think is relevant please email us so we can grow this as a community 🙂

Open mind as well as the two courses are already available NOW, Awakening will launch 1 August and a new episode will release every tuesday.

All input is greatly appreciated 🙂

Julia and Marietta Theunissen

How to Achieve Mental Strength

ITS hard to achieve mental strength when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mould and take a bold new direction requires extra input, courage, determination and perseverance. These kinds of qualities only the mentally strong have!!

Mentally strong people are:

EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT:

To fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them takes mental strength. Moments that test your mental strength are ultimately testing your emotional intelligence. Your emotional intelligence is in fact flexible and can be improved where IQ is not.

THEY ARE CONFIDENT:

Your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed. THIS is a fact.

“when you think, you can, or think you can’t – you are right {Henry Ford}

Confidence inspires others and helps them to make things happen.

THEY EMBRACE CHANGE:

Mentally strong people are flexible and are constantly adapting and growing with circumstances. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness.

Only when you embrace change can you find the good in it.

THEY SAY NO:

The more difficulty you have to say NO the more likely you are to experience stress, burn out or depression.

Saying NO is healthy, self-affirming and builds good self-esteem.

THEY NEUTRALIZE DIFFICULT PEOPLE:

Mentally strong people take charge of their interactions with toxic people by keeping their emotions in check.

Not letting anger or frustration fuel the chaos is of utmost importance.

They find solutions to problems and try and find common ground at all times.

It’s important to take a toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.

THEY DON’T DWELL ON MISTAKES:

Where we focus, our attention will determine our emotional state. When you focus on action to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy.

THEY DON’T COMPARE THEMSELVES TO OTHERS. Everyone has something to offer and one does not have to take other people down a notch to feel good about themselves.

THEY EMBRACE FAILURE:

The road to success is paved with failure and with the experience of failure one can see a solution that you have been missing. Frustration always forces you to think differently….”out of the box”.

THEY EXERCISE:

People with mental strength that exercise at least 2x per week rate their body image and self-esteem higher and it keeps you strong and healthy.

THEY GET ENOUGH SLEEP:

Quality sleep is a priority for better strength, motivation, health and stamina and mental wellbeing …in general for all of our wellbeing.

THEY ARE RELENTLESSLY POSITIVE:

Mentally strong people don’t get caught up in things they can’t control like the weather or a war of famine…etc but they focus their energy on things within their power.

Lastly…. MENTAL STRENGTH CAN BE ACHIEVED AND IS NOT A TALENT JUST FOR A FEW CHOSEN…

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Last Show for the YEAR Pierneefteater

Marietta Theunissen and I are very excited for the content of our LAST SHOW for the year on 24 November… what you can expect:

-predictions of what 2017 will hold for us globally
-months to look out for and the lucky times we can expect
-motivational information on how to communicate better
-relationships do’s and don’ts
-how to start using your intuition and trusting it
-how to let go of the past and live free and whole
-how people on the other side send us signs that they are happy
-how to work through the grieving process

All this and probably much more. Marietta and I are almost fully booked for the year. So this show will give everyone the chance to meet with us and like minded people. Learn and break through certain patterns that might be holding you back .

For ticket sales and bookings please call the pierneefteater directly today on 012 329 0709 / www.pierneefteater.co.za

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Pierneefteater SHOW

Marietta & Julia Theunissen last live show for 2016

Live Audience Messages at the Pierneefteater

Pretoria,  October 20, 2016– Famous South African mother/daughter duo Marietta Theunissen (Die Ander Kant – Kyknet) and Julia Theunissen (Tussen Twee Werelde – ViaTv) Will be hosting their last live show for the year at the Pierneefteater on Thursday 24 November from 7pm-9pm.

Well known for their accurate insights, positive messages and guiding coaching, this pair will be giving audience members the chance to ask about their pressing questions and concerns regarding the afterlife, the future and the past.

Experience a show filled with positive guidance and interesting conversations aimed at bringing about real change and relieving a lot of confusion and guilt.

Pierneefteater only has limited space for maximum 150 people, so early booking is essential. Tickets are R150pp.

 

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If you would like more information about this show, please contact Pierneefteater at 012 329 0709 or email at info@pierneefteater.co.za

 

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